I've wanted to get this off my chest for a while, and I'm going to say that, at this point, I grow deathly tired of people attacking others for being "skinny" and acting as though being "skinny" is a loathsome or subhuman thing to be. Turns out, it's not. A lot of people are naturally skinny, myself included, and I think it's nothing short of a load of BS when people try to act like "lol real men have meat and women have curves why do you go for bones when you could have a piece of this hurrhurr." Having a preference
, it's okay for some people to prefer different body shapes, but when you start elevating yourself and talking down or insisting someone of a smaller size is comparable to "bones" or something "only dogs would want," you look like a shallow fucking douche.
And I've seen a number of people campaign for things like, "say no to size zero" and then following up with something like, "some girls are big and some are small and some are size zero and some aren't everyone is different preach preach love tolerance don't spread body hate SAY NO TO SIZE ZERO."
Congratulations, you're a hypocritical fuck and you're doing the exact opposite of spreading tolerance. Size zero people exist and thank you for your backwards attempt at empowerment that will only end up in making for difficulties for them to find fitting clothes, myself included. Because only bigger people can flaunt their curves or meat and if a skinnier person does it they clearly "need a sandwich" or, in a female's case, are apparently just a shallow, empty media-embracing slut as opposed to a "big, brave, confident woman."
I'm not even going to go into how difficult it can be for skinnier people to find clothes. I fucking tried two different stores just to go buy new goddamn jeans
for the first time in ages and virtually everything was either too big for me or too long so I'm currently stuck rewearing what I've got until I get more freetime to shop around again. I'm not even going to go into how hard it was to get something that fit properly for my high school graduation.
I've seen people also make excuses for skinny-hating mentalities such as, "well trying to lose weight is very hard and sometimes i just CAN'T STAND IT when i see a skinny person so i get really angry." Do you honestly think skinny people never have to work out or don't have physical problems either? Turns out, I have to take time out to go work out, too and it can still be exhausting for us as well. And even if there are times when skinny people do have faster metabolisms, just saying "well im fat and ur skinny and working out is hard so i thinks its understandable that i hate your skinniness" is infantile and downright absurd. Same thing when people get pissed and say things such as, "fuck look at dat skinny bastard eating that pizza why I gotta eat this salad what a little fucker." It just makes you hateful of other people's bodies.
Same thing when people try so hard to bash on skinny people that they make themselves look really insecure in the process. I saw a few of these "anti-skinny" propaganda things floating around before (I'm not sure what else to call them) where they would basically have bold words for emphasis and say things like, "I'd rather be strong
than be skinny.
" Or "look at all that connotations for skinny such as weak, bones, sickness, etc.
If that isn't fucked up and hateful, I don't know what is. All I get from this is people who are so unhappy with their weights that they feel the need to put down someone elses body and weight and compare them to, essentially, walking sickness containers or bones in order to make themselves feel better. "welp i cant be skinny and working out is really difficult and im unhappy with myself so i'll just vehemently bash and hate what i cant have in a distorted attempt at self-reassurance."
There are a lot of larger men and women that are perfectly acceptable with being at a bigger size, but from my experience, I can usually tell the genuinely confident ones apart from the hateful ones because they don't stoop to bashing smaller sizes to make themselves feel better about their weight.
I recently found this post on Tumblr:"oh you're a size 0? i bet you feel accomplished and hungry.
every size is beautiful. curves for life. bitches."
>Every size is beautiful? Curves for life. bitches.
Because being a size zero automatically makes you an anorexic media-brainwashed shallow fiend, amirite? And it automatically makes you a "bitch." (seriously, I love it when people try to make statements flip-flopping between how we're all "starving" and then how we're all "little bitches" because we "eat whatever we want.")
And then we have stuff like this. 29.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m28…
Insulting both certain body types AND people with certain preferences at once. What a prime piece of empowerment.
What? Bigger people can be hateful and body-shame, too???? NO WAY, I THOUGHT ONLY SKINNY PEOPLE
WERE SHALLOW, INSECURE, STARVING SKELETONS THAT WERE CAPABLE OF BODY BULLYING AND PUTTING DOWN OTHERS THAT WEREN'T THE SAME SIZE AS THEM. Because "all bodies are beautiful" only applies to larger folks and skinny people are sickening pariahs and it's okay to rip on them but if you do it to a larger person you're cruel and unusual and you suck (for the record, I believe neither kinds of bullying are okay, but I think it's pure BS that people use "skinny ppl bullied me abloobloobloo" as an excuse to bully others later down the road).
Same thing when people see plus-sized models and (naively) that, "OMG LOOK AT THESE PLUS-SIZED MODELS THEY ARE REAL WOMEN WITH REAL CURVES THIS IS HOW WOMEN SHOULD BE."
Except those "plus-sized REAL WOMEN" on the magazines are tailored to fit a certain media image as well derp, they're just bigger.
I've also noticed people saying things like, "this new female character is automatically the best because they're curvy!" or "boy, I'm so GLAD this new curvy character looks like a NORMAL girl." (Additionally, I've noticed that the "curvy = normal" is applied more to female characters than males).
For the largest part of my life, I used to side with larger people far more on weight issues (until the last two-three years or so) even when they talked down about smaller-sized people, but at this point I'm pretty much just fed up with it. Especially since I've known people both irl and online who would talk to me about their weight issues only to turn around and make generalizing comments about how "real men/women have this" or "skinny sucks lol."
Next time another larger friend comes to me about weight when they except me to comfort them, at this point I'm probably just gonna be like, "well ok." Seriously, why even bother at this point if you apparently think "all bodies are beautiful" only applies to your body type and skinny people are just useless sticks. It's not like you want the opinion of a leprous piled of bones anyway so it's whatever, man.
Edit: To be clear on this, I'm not saying bigger people don't have weight issues or that skinny people necessarily "have it worse." Nor am I doing it because, "oh gee, i see fat people complaining about their weight and image issues so I'm gonna do it for the hell of it, too." The point is that both sides get shit, even if cases have bigger people getting the worse end of the stick, skinny people aren't free of image and weight issues (or even ridicule or harassment) and I think it's utter absurdity to talk about "loving yourself" and how "every body is equal" only to act as if it only applies to larger people and somehow that it makes it A-OK to talk to skinnier folks as if they're "dogs" or "bones" or act as if every case of skinniness equates to "sickness" or something undesirable.